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Brokeback - YellowgreenAnger

Blah so yeah last night I went and looked up Perfectionism, and yeah, the root of all my problems in life tend to stem from the fact that I'm a perfectionist.

Now don't get me wrong, there is a difference between a perfectionist and a "healthy achiever." A Healthy achiever sets goals slightly higher than normal so they work for it. A perfectionist sets unreallistic goals.

Being a perfectionist is not a good thing. I was really weirded out/feeling odd, because like every single one of my problems derives from the perfectionist thing.

I went to like 5 websites last night and every one of them was like a description of me. Gah.

http://www.couns.uiuc.edu/brochures/perfecti.htm
http://www.coping.org/growth/perfect.htm
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3815479.stm
http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/perfection/perfect.html
http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/mind/articles/personalityandindividuality/perfectionism.shtml

I don't know. I just-blah.
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I have been described as a perfectionsit as well and the only thing I can tell you is that you have to get to a point where you are comfortable in your own skin. I know think about the things I want to be perfect and the people I am trying so much to please. Is it realistic to make everyone happy? No! Are the things I am doing to try to make people happy easy to accomplish? If they aren't and you are changing who you are to make other happy, then it is time to step back and reassess. Not everyone is going to like/love/adore you and the sooner you van accept that the easier it will be, to be you. I think about college and realize that I only have two friends that I talk to from that time...and both accepted me in spite of my shortcomings, which are mainly in my head. They saw through all the bells and whistles I tried to hide behind and saw the me and like that me. And that me is a girl who speaks her mind, wears what she wants, listens to what she wants and does not worry about who likes me and who doesn't. Life is too short to think about that on a daily basis. Don't get me wrong,I have my days whenI feel like a complete and utter fuck up and wonder how it is anyone can stand to be around me, but when those days come I think about the things in my life that are good/great/effing fantastic. And then I realize I am doing something right andkeep on chugging along.

I don't know if this helped at all...and I'm sorry I rambled..but just know you are not alone out there!
No, it's cool, thanks for all the input and experience and what not, I really appreciate it. :)
I'll second what oneluckyb said and add that having identified your major issue you now have something to focus on and battle. Now everytime you want to "fix" something all you have to do is ask yourself "why?" and if the answer is "to make it perfect" tell yourself to stop. It won't be easy but its definately doable.

Good Luck